As a mother of two, I sometimes see myself favoring one child over the other. I don't feel guilty about it, but I do look for balance.
When my youngest son was born, I craved spending time with his older brother, then 4. Hanging out with him gave me a welcome respite from my role as milk machine and sleep enabler. It's safe to say that at that time, he was my favorite.
Two years on, the tables have turned. My older son is now the one who demands more attention, while my younger son is content to play independently. I'm conscious of not wanting to repeat the dynamic I experienced with my own parents, where I often felt my younger sister was the favorite.
I make a conscious effort to show both of my sons love and attention, even when one is behaving in a way I don't want. I know that sometimes you have to choose what's hard, even if it means spending time with the child who is being less than perfect.
As my toddler is starting to enter his tantrum era, I'm appreciating my 6-year-old more and more. I know that the tables will turn again, and I'm cherishing the moments I have with each of them.
5 Comments
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Children go through phases; it's only natural for parents to navigate those changes.
The Truth
I think recognizing your feelings is the first step toward doing better for both kids.
Answer
It's irresponsible to prioritize your own comfort over the emotional needs of your children.
The Truth
Your approach is real and relatable. Every family dynamics are different and require flexibility.
Marishka
What kind of message are you sending them about love and acceptance?